
A huge part of being a good rider I’m discovering is that aspect of developing a partnership rather than being a passenger. A different experience for both horse and rider.
As Roland my massage therapist said “picture the ride you want to ride, feelings, sensations, the smell of the trails how your legs feel and step into that picture.
Wikpedia defines Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) as a personal development system developed in the early 1970s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder . It uses a toolbox of strategies, axioms and beliefs about human perception and subjective experience.
NLP’s core idea is that an individual’s thoughts, gestures and words interact to create one’s perception of the world. By changing one’s outlook, therefore, a person can improve his attitudes and actions. These observations can be changed by applying a variety of techniques.
I knew a trained NLP therapist back in New York days and while I only dabbled in its techniques a combination of applying the principles and “visualization” have helped me alot in competition and “riding the ride I want.”
NLP teaches that a person can develop successful habits by focusing on helpful behaviors and diminishing negative ones. Positive change can come when you are the behaviors and beliefs of successful people (called ‘modeling’). Trust me, I’m going somewhere with this.
Some of its presuppositions include:
There is no failure, only feedback (what a great formula for life!)
NLP does not view communication in terms of success and failure. No, not all actions are expected to “work”, rather they are intended to explore, and the results should be utilized as a source of valuable learning and new focus, rather than cause for negativity and despair. Do not dwell unnecessarily on the failure, instead explore what you have learned for the next time How liberating and empowering is that!! That alone can help in achieving the outcome. Instead of beating yourself up… it’s an “opportunity in work clothes”
Choice is better than no choice (and flexibility is the way one gets choice)
As a self-admitted “control freak” this is key. A large part of basic NLP is recognizing “stuckness”, “One choice is no choice, two choices is a dilemma, three [or more] choices is choice”. The ability to change the process by which we experience reality is more often valuable than changing the content of our experience of reality.
How much does the mind have to do with becoming a good rider? What is the connection between what we think and what we do? Is it possible to change our mental programming, allowing us to enhance our awareness, learn new skills, become confident riders, all without leaving the comforts of home?
A good example . When you are hungry driving home from work, you begin to imagine what you might have for dinner. As you review the menu in your mind, your mouth begins to water. Perhaps you visualized the ingredients you would need for your meal. You picture going through the motions of slicing the fruit, grating the cheese, opening the can or even pulling up to the drive thru. Chances are the more you thought about it, the more hungry you became.
The mind cannot differentiate between reality and what is imagined. When you visualize something, your body responds as if you were actually doing it. Our muscles can actually learn new skills and refine the mind-body connection through visualization. Obviously you can’t increase muscle tone daydreaming in your bedroom, nice try though, but you can use the power of imagination to help create what you want to accomplish . You can do this in sport or the night before a business presentation if you got those jitters.
One of the main things research has shown showed was that almost all of the world-class athletes and other peak performers are visualizers. They see it; they feel it; they experience it before they actually do it. They begin with the end in mind. I’ve used this technique with great effects on my races.
That sounds great, think positive, imagine the perfect ride… blah blah blah… but how can I put it into use in a practical way. Can I imagine my self riding the perfect dressage test, do an I dream of Jeanie folded arm wink and ride in to reality? No, not exactly, at least not that simply or that quickly. Successful visualization and mental practice still takes practice. Start a little smaller.
For me, this is key.. since I’m discovering tis mostly the pilot .. Hailing from a musical family, the best analogy to describe it is that for Gazi you must ride piannissimo with cues and aids.. while Alle, is a fortissimo type of mare. Ride her with lots of leg. If I dont differentiate, I’ve found that either Gazi and I are taking the fast route to Arizona or I’m coming in for an unforced dismount.
The night before, or morning of your next ride/meeting.. fill in the blank give this a try…
1.Clear your mind - I usually do this in bed, when its quiet and there are no distractions. Use whatever works for you to clear the clutter. Some people like to mentally rehearse after relaxing exercise - yoga, tai chi, or even just stretching. Its not important how you relax, but relaxation and ability to focus are absolutely essential.
2. Bring forward what you want to learn - overcome - Use all your senses. Visualize every detail. The clothes you’re wearing, your tack, the weather outside, the footing in the arena. Imagine your state of mind (positive and relaxed). Same for your body
3. Now begin to imagine your ride. I feel how the horse du jour (see above) feels, this rhythm and cadence. Repeat it as though you were actually doing it. No detail is too small. Visualize the end of your perfect ride in just as much detail including putting the horse away
As we’re starting a new year, what “programs “would you like to change?
As Gandhi said: ‘Be the change you want to see in the world.’
Some post ride oats for my horse and some for us. Down on the Farm Flax cookies
Ingredients
1/2 cup (125 mL) butter, softened
1/2 cup (125 mL) packed brown sugar
1/3 cup (75 mL) granulated sugar
1 egg
1/2 tsp (2 mL) vanilla
1 cup (250 mL) all-purpose flour
3/4 cup (175 mL) quick-cooking rolled oats
2/3 cup (150 mL) flaxseeds
1 tsp (5 mL) baking soda
Preparation
In bowl, beat together butter and brown and granulated sugars until light; beat in egg and vanilla.
In separate bowl, whisk together flour, oats, flaxseeds and baking soda; stir into butter mixture until soft dough forms.
Drop by level tablespoonfuls (15 mL), 2 inches (5 cm) apart, on ungreased rimless baking sheets. Bake in top and bottom thirds of 350ºF (180ºC) oven, rotating and switching pans halfway through, until golden, 12 minutes. Let cool on pan on rack for 2 minutes.
Transfer cookies to rack; let cool. (Make-ahead: Layer between waxed paper and freeze in airtight container for up to 1 month.)
Trot on friends, trot on.